Archive for November, 2009


Posted in Uncategorized on November 27, 2009 by Darlene Cunningham

This Thanksgiving I am thankful for a good relationship with my ex-husband.  I am thankful that my kids get to see us being healthy whole people again and not just angry bitter spouses.

I am appreciative for my new in-laws.  Without them, I would have no one to celebrate the holiday with.  My family is too far away.

I am happy to have someone holding me as I fall asleep at night and to wake up to every morning.  Many people don’t have love.  Even when she is bugging me, I still love her and am so glad she is in my life.

Most of all, I am thankful for my beautiful kids.  My gorgeous, smart, funny daughter; who is me but so much better and my handsome, loving, sweet son; who gives me every ounce of his little heart even when I don’t deserve it.  They make my life worth living.  Nothing is as important to me or as powerful.

Happy Thanksgiving.  Even if it is a holiday based in controversy, it’s purpose is a good one; celebrate the blessings in your life and focus on them.  It gives you a basis for improving your outlook.  When I sit down and count my blessings, I realize just how lucky I am.



No demands

Posted in Uncategorized on November 24, 2009 by Darlene Cunningham

Sometimes I find it hard to be the person everybody wants something from.  I want to have a night where I make what I want to eat, I do what I want to do, and I don’t feel like everyone is demanding something of me, even if it’s just a kiss.  I am trying to do that tonight.  Already, I have a girlfriend who thinks I am mad at her.

Lesbians suck!  We can’t have friends because we could be cheating.  We can’t have our own needs, because then we don’t love our partners.  I can’t possibly really need time to myself.  Something must be wrong.

My girlfriend had all day to be by herself.  I had ten minutes in the car on the way home.  When I walk through the door it’s “whats for dinner” ” where’s my kiss”  ” lets snuggle”  I have no time to just defrag from a day of “I need this shoe in a size 7 narrow.”

When my kids are here, I understand.  What is it about adult lesbian women that results in the disappearance of the individual.  Even when I was married to my ex-husband, I had friends and nights out on my own.  He didn’t think something was wrong if I needed time by myself.  Are lesbians somehow deficient in emotional empathy.  Can they not see the need for time apart.  How can I miss you if you are always there?

Teach me, teach you!

Posted in Uncategorized on November 16, 2009 by Darlene Cunningham

It’s funny to me that people presume to tell me how to sell things.  I have made a very successful little life for myself in sales, and they try to “teach” me how to gain a customer’s/client’s respect.  In truth, the simplest way for me is to be genuine.  Honesty.  I enjoy just sitting down and getting to the root of what someone really wants.  Whether it is advertising for the success of their business or which shoe style would work best for what they are needing it for.  I don’t push, it’s not necessary and if they merely want to try the shoes on and just need to be treated nicely for a minute, okay.  Those are the people who will be back when they have a need and then, I can fill it.

I fully realize that not everyone can be the “honest” salesperson, but it works for me and I don’t know how else to do it.

Welcome Wagon

Posted in Uncategorized on November 2, 2009 by Darlene Cunningham

I sell shoes.  It isn’t anything overwhelmingly benevolent, but it pays the bills.  I feel like maybe I should do more with my life.  I want to do more with my life.  I wonder if any other mothers feel like I do.  Doesn’t there have to be something more?